Do you have a Mother wound?

        

        Mother and Father wounds are very real, they change your perspective on a lot of things in life. But first you have to accept that you have a mother wound, this will allow you to open up for healing. First of all what is a mother wound? A mother wound, is a deep emotional trauma that often happens when we are young and learning about life, this impacts our adult relationships it, even impacts how we handle decision making. When we do not have the emotional or physical support or we received some form of neglectful parenting from our mothers it plants a seed in our subconscious mind leading to self doubt, the feeling of worthlessness, lack of trust in others, and how safe we feel around others.  As a child you constantly needed some type of approval by seeking validation or by finding ways to attach to her. If you didn't receive that and your emotional needs were not met this created that mother wound. AND let me just say, don't be embarrassed or afraid to seek help in regards to this, its actually a very powerful thing that you are analyzing your self and learning your self to get past certain limiting beliefs. You are strong and confident and I am rooting for you ! 

Realizing you have a mother wound:

1. You probably do not know how to attach to people correctly.  

2. You don't know what people want from you. 

3. You don't know how to have close relationships. 

4. You don't know how to get where you really want to go 

5. It's difficult for you to explain things

6. Your often labeled as demanding or controlling. 

7. Low confidence and low self-esteem. (She often was not there to guide you or to validate you) 

8. Very often doubting yourself. (" I can't do that" "I don't think I can" "how could I") you feel like this because you did not get the validation that you needed. 

9. Boundaries, fear of rejection if you set them. ( this is filled with anxiety) This will cause for you to be anxiously attached not being able to be your self because you worry about the inconvenience that you will make the other person feel 

10. VERY IMPORTANT you don't know how to " go with your gut" ( this is because you don't feel safe enough to allow yourself to feel your feelings)  Also you probably thought to yourself " if she is not happy she wont care for you" so you hid your feelings because instead of nurturing you, you had to feel other people's feelings making you anxiously attached and not being able to trust your gut. 

11. Also, you constantly need validation from people, you want to know "why people love you" you feel out of place not knowing where you stand. 

12. You are very sensitive. You need that nurturing that you didn't have so it makes you more needy. 

There are a couple of other things that we can point out but I do want to mention one last one. It's called the Imposter Syndrome, so what is the Imposter Syndrome? It is a phenomenon that happens making you feel self doubt and doubting your accomplishments, having fear of being called a fraud, feeling like you don't deserve what you worked so hard to do, even after all your hard work and dedication. 

Mother wounds can create a life full of doubt if not worked on, realizing you have this wound is important to be able to heal and live a happy healthy life. When your mother was not loving and/or compassionate with you, you can not be loving and compassionate to yourself. ( You see what happens there) Its a loop of self doubt and hurting yourself. You won't be able to love your self because you don't know how. This is why it is very important to work on this. I will share healing tips on my next blog and it will help you start your journey on healing your mother wound, but first remember you have to accept that its there.

I also work with individuals that are ready to reframe that whole aspect of their life. Using hypnotherapy with the timeline technique we go back to your childhood memories using vivid imagination to reframe that pain and be able to move past it permanently. 

I used this myself :)  

- Jessica Gutierrez M.